To my love:
I’ve written and rewritten this letter more times than I can count. Each version is shaped by fear—fear of being too much, too emotional, too needy. But suppressing my truth hasn’t helped us grow. I’ve realized that real relationship healing begins with honesty and vulnerability.
Loving you brings out the most beautiful and most fragile parts of me. When we’re connected, I feel grounded and safe. But even the slightest emotional distance can stir up overwhelming insecurity.
This is the heart of anxious attachment—a push-pull cycle of craving closeness while fearing rejection.
I know I seek reassurance—often. And I know it can feel like it’s never enough. I notice every pause in conversation, every delayed reply, every subtle change in your tone. My mind fills in the blanks with worst-case scenarios. It’s exhausting—for both of us.
But this isn’t your fault. My relationship anxiety comes from earlier experiences—where love felt unpredictable or unsafe. Those patterns still echo in my nervous system today.
For so long, I felt ashamed of how intensely I love and how deeply I fear loss. But I now understand that these reactions are protective responses—not character flaws. I’m learning to regulate my emotions, self-soothe, and trust that love doesn’t have to be earned through anxiety.
And this is exactly why so many couples benefit from couples therapy —to learn how to respond to each other in ways that build connection instead of triggering fear.
I want to shift from anxiety to security. I want to move toward emotional resilience and a grounded kind of love. That doesn’t mean I don’t need you. I do. But I need you in ways that create safety: presence, consistency, patience, emotional honesty.
We come from different emotional maps—you might withdraw when things get intense, and I tend to reach in. But I believe we can learn a healthier dance together—with compassion, safety, and authenticity.
Thank you for loving me through the chaos. Thank you for staying when walking away might have been easier. Your presence means more than you know.
This letter is more than a confession of love. It’s a commitment—to growth, to healing, and to a more secure, connected relationship.
I’m learning. I’m trying. I’m still here.
With all my heart,
Joree
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